Subtracting From Your To-Do List
Updated: Feb 6
With January comes New Year's resolutions. I bet you made resolutions like:
- Be Healthier/Eat Better/Lose Weight/Exercise More - Spend More Time with Friends & Family - More Self-Care - Get Organized
Am I right? And right about now, the middle of January you might just be feeling a little bit overwhelmed. You see when we add more things to our plate, but we don't take anything off of our plate, it becomes more and more difficult to manage and focus on all the things.
If you're feeling overwhelmed, ask yourself what really matters. And then focus on that. If you find that there are responsibilities that still need taken care of, but don't necessarily rank highly on your "matters" list, see if you can delegate or cut them out completely.
Around October I began really struggling. October is one of the busiest times of the year work-wise, and I was having difficulty managing the unrealistic expectations that I have a habit of setting for myself. I was honestly on the verge of a breakdown. I was feeling fatigued, anxious, and forgetting things because I just had too much going on, too many balls in the air. So I sat back and looked at what really mattered in that season of my life. One thing that didn't matter at that particular time, was my version of what dinner should look like. I'd always been a meat and two sides kinda gal, which I would cook and serve to my family lovingly. But I realized that with everything else going on, it just didn't rank high on my list of priorities. So instead of slaving over a hot stove after working all day, and stressing about what to make for dinner, I began making one stop on the weekends and loading up on pre-made casseroles. Thankfully we have a wonderful catering business that sells them fresh or frozen. Voila! All I had to do was pop them in the oven and my family and I enjoyed a scrumptious meal each night. It may sound silly and small, but it made such a big difference when I gave myself permission to not live up to the ridiculously high standards I'd set for myself. When I showed myself grace, I was able to get through this busy season, and with my sanity intact (mostly). And do you know what I realized? My family actually prefers lighter meals, rather than heavy meat-based meals. Now that I have less on my plate at work and things have slowed down, I've gotten back to cooking and have had more healthy based meals, but I've changed the way I cook and recognize that when I'm feeling overwhelmed, I need to take something off of my plate.
So friends, stop setting unrealistic expectations of yourself. Stop striving for perfection. Show yourself some grace. Ask for help if you need it. Say no to things that don't fill up your cup. Live Balanced.